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wow, generalization to the extreme |
I'm an Asian male raised and born in East Asia (Korea), have been studying in the states for 9 years. I've dated both whites and Asians. So I think I'm in a position where I can provide you with a pretty good perspective on this particular matter. I think the truth of the matter is that people are attracted to whoever they find attractive regardless of race. Some of the standards that we cannot overlook though, seem to be universal: being tall, handsome, rich, etc. But all these criteria are subjective to one's opinion. One thing that you should notice is that the standard of beauty varies among different regions and culture. You'll be amazed to find that many Asian women especially (Korea) prefer their men to be athletic but not noticeably buff- being a workout freaks just wouldn't make it. They like slender stature in men and if you check out all the Asian male actors nowadays, you'll get a grip of what I'm talking about. They are slender and athletic but compare to the beauty standard of America, those actors may not necessarily cut it because they are not "protein-buff", again by the American standards. A good example of this is the Korean singer/actor, RAIN, I know this guy is really flying in Asia but I knew right off the bat, he wasn't exactly cut for the "Asian Invasion" in the states. If Americanized women had to compare, Yul Kwon, the winner of Survivor season 13 would be more appealing than RAIN. I also thought this was interesting observation that - Many Korean women that have been educated in the western culture seem to find all race attractive maybe not by equal weights but still they appreciate diversity. However, it doesn't necessarily mean that they will date any race. (They usually speak good English and they will find someone of their similar/better social stature: Koreans that have been educated in the west and are rich but will go back to Korea after their education. - Most Asian men, like any other race, seem to find any beautiful woman regardless of her race (haha, it's true, maybe some Asians will automatically cross out their choices when it comes getting marriage, but casually and consistently dating hot girls of any race seem to be the dream of all human males) - Most Korean women that live in Korea tend to dismiss non-Koreans from their dating games. - The ones that date non-Korean males in Korea are usually the ones that have been either: exposed to foreign cultures little bit but not educated in western countries. Vast majority of them seem to have this fantasy that all westerners would take them to this million dollar house with beautiful garden and a pool IF they take them back to the states. They usually speak English but at the intermediate level. They are not "pretty enough" by Korean beauty standards or they love to learn English. How do you know if you're with one of them? it's simple, you say anything in English and they would be impressed at whatever stupid non-sense an English speaker would tell them (BECAUSE THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND AND WILL TRY TO PRETEND THAT THEY DID AND LAUGH IT OFF). The fact that they are even talking to a foreigner in English makes them socially feel superior to those who don't speak English because of the power and influence the English language has on cultures around the world. Dating a non-Asian would be a good vehicle to show others that they are successful and bilingual! I'm NOT saying ALL of them are like that but it has been the general consensus among my friends who experienced both western and Asian culture. Having been exposed to the American culture, it's funny I always have a dilemma around this time of the year (right before I go back home to Korea for summer) whether I should keep working out or should I stop and go on a diet. (yeah I know, some of you may think this is ridiculous but imagine you're living in two different worlds with contrasting beauty standards, you kinda have to balance things out) The BOTTOM LINE IS, As far as women NOT liking Asian males, I think it contextually lacks some significant components to make it a valid statement. It's not that women don't like Asian males, they just don't like the ones that are not attractive. You can go on and tell people that Asians like all white people but then, you know that's not true. When is the last time you saw a non attractive non-Asian girl with an Asian guy? They are either with very attractive non-Asian girl or else none. In case you're not familiar with the Asian culture, we need to establish a sense of social acceptance ( which I think kinda sucks ), in other words, everytime you date a girl, you need to think about what others around you would think of this including your parents and friends. Attractive people, regardless of their races attract a large pool of people. Those who are not, I'm sorry. I like girls that are hot and have attractive sociable attributes. I'm sure most people feel the same when it comes to dating (marriage is a different story)...
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